Discovering my G-spot is proving to be a long and difficult journey. My current partner is its Christopher Columbus — finding it before I did, even though it was there all along. I’ll never forget that moment: my eyes opened wide, my mouth making the perfect O of surprised pleasure and awe. Over the last few years, I’ve discovered the joys of blended orgasms (those arrived at from both clitoral and G-spot stimulation). Sex toys have taught me a lot about my body. The Tantus G-spot Vibrator, Lelo Mona 2, and Jopen Key Comet 2 have all allowed me to take control of a pleasure center whose very existence I once doubted. Still, a purely G-spot orgasm has eluded me — and my experience with squirting is limited to a single trickling instance of maybe sorta.
Being the sex nerd that I am, this is the point where I start reading everything I can on the subject. And the first book I got my hands on was The Secrets of G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation by Tristan Taormino.
Taormino does a wonderful job of presenting information in an educational but totally relatable way, with bits of erotic fiction, high-quality softcore photographs, and fabulous quotes interspersed throughout. She starts with a short overview of G-spot science & depictions of internal genital anatomy that are perfect for G-spot beginners. But what I really enjoyed were all the practical suggestions: toys, positions, even step-by-step advice for myself AND my partner.
In fact, she makes squirting seem so easy that I finished the book with complete certainty that the next time would be THE time. It wasn’t, of course. Learning how to master one’s G-spot can take a lot of time & effort — and still there are no guarantees. But this book has helped me to make huge strides in letting go of the fear and stress that I experience from that familiar “Do I have to pee?” feeling. It’s helped me to push past the overwhelming sensations to arrive at the most pleasurable & exhausting blended orgasms that I have ever experienced.
As always, it’s important to remember that a person’s sexual experiences are unique. Not every individual will find G-spot stimulation enjoyable, and not everyone will be able to experience a G-spot orgasm or female ejaculation. But if you’re curious about exploring this area of your body, Tristan Taormino has created a truly fantastic resource!
If you’re interested in adding The Secrets of G-Spot Orgasms to your sexual library, please consider purchasing from my affiliate, Good Vibrations.