We-Vibe Rave Review

I am a power queen.

Whenever I turn on a new sex toy for the first time, I immediately max out the vibrations. I know that most of my vibrators will never be used on anything less than their highest setting. And even then, many will simply get passed over for my 2 favorites: the We-Vibe Tango or Hitachi Magic Wand. It’s not necessarily that I can’t climax without the power of ten billion buzzing bees between my legs1, it’s that I usually don’t want to. I’d rather spend my time aiming for multiple orgasms than struggling to my first.

When I heard that We-Vibe (makers of the most powerful bullet vibe in the world!) was releasing their first G-spot vibrator, I got super excited. So far, my strongest vibrators have not been insertable. And while I don’t typically require as much internal vibration to have a good time, I was still really hoping for a chance to rattle my G-spot into a state of utter exhaustion. description text

We-Vibe RaveThe We-Vibe Rave is a strange looking toy. It’s entirely asymmetrical — swooping slightly to the left on the handle & to the right towards the head, all while bending upwards to create an almost boomerang-like angle. There is also a slight twist in the design, forming an edge that is much sharper on one side than the other. It measures approximately 7.5″ long with a 1.25″ diameter.

The Rave is covered with a thin layer of body-safe & nonporous silicone that has a matte finish and is velvety soft to the touch. It lubricates easily to minimize drag and it doesn’t attract very much dust, lint, or hair in-between uses. The inner structure is incredibly firm, offering absolutely no bend or give.

On the front of the vibrator, there are 3 small, raised buttons. The + and – buttons are used to increase and decrease the vibration intensity. The o in the middle cycles through the 10 different vibration modes, offering a variety of pulses & waves. Any button will turn the toy on, starting immediately at whichever setting you used last. You can turn it off by either pressing & holding the o button or by cycling through all of the patterns.

Screen Shot 2016-03-07 at 12.04.27 AMAbove the control buttons is another small bullseye shape. This is the “self healing” charging port. (An area of silicone that you can poke the charger through without permanently damaging the toy.) Impaling a high-price toy always makes me uneasy, but that’s exactly how these sorts of chargers work. The idea is that the port will recover & protect itself against water without the need for a plug — although it’s important to notice that the Rave is only “splash-proof.” It is NOT fully waterproof. We-Vibe advertises that a 90 minute charge lasts for up to 2 hours of use.

We-Vibe Rave - ButtonsAs with many other We-Vibe products that have been released recently, the Rave is compatible with their We-Connect app. This allows you to pair the vibrator with your phone via Bluetooth and then connect with “lovers” via the app, chatting with them & giving them control over the toy’s settings. We-Connect also allows you to create your own custom vibration patterns.

The We-Vibe Rave is available in one color (purple) and comes packaged in a sturdy cardboard box with tasteful photos of the product & basic information printed on the outside. Included with the Rave is a USB charging cord (AC adaptor not included), storage bag, instruction booklet, and 1-year warranty.

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We-Vibe Rave - PackagingThis really shouldn’t come as a surprise: I absolutely love the vibrations! The Rave make me gasp every single time that I insert & position it before turning it on. It rumbles against my G-spot in such a way that the vibrations seem to travel through my whole body — or at least my entire pelvic region. My partner believes that it has the deepest, most penetrating vibrations of The We-Vibe Trifecta. Its vibration intensity is not quite Tango level… but still much stronger than the Touch. I actually have trouble selecting a good clit vibe to pair with it, because it tends to overshadow anything with less power. (Definitely a problem that I’m okay with having.)

The asymmetrical shape, on the other hand, did not win me over. I know that plenty of people will love the unique sensations it can create, but the sharp edges are a serious turn off for me. I can’t roll the toy across the front wall of my vagina (a technique I learned to love from the Key Jopen Comet II) without feeling like I am scraping out my insides. And the curve is just a little too intense to lose myself in thrusting. (At least it doesn’t get painfully hooked behind my pubic bone!)

We-Vibe RaveMy solution? I enjoy the complete absence of motion with the Rave. I might experiment a little here or there with very subtle movements, but most of the time I resort to pure unadulterated pressure. Its form is so solid that I can press down on the handle and shove the inserted end upwards with all of my might. I get the most pleasure from holding it there, allowing the vibrations to rattle through my body. My hand & arm eventually cramping from the force I’m exerting; my G-spot pleasurably sore after a few orgasms.

The only way that I can enjoy the asymmetrical shape is during clitoral stimulation — which the Rave also excels at. Externally, the different surfaces of the toy provide options depending on what type of stimulation you find most pleasurable. Broad, flat surface? Yep. Thin, pointed edge? It has you covered. And the curved length gives you a wonderful handle too.

The only across-the-board downside that I can find with the Rave is in the little things: the charging port & the We-Connect app.

We-Vibe Rave - ChargingNot only is the charging port what prevents this toy from being waterproof, it’s also in the worst possible place to get loads of lube & bodily fluids caked in & around it. (Seriously. Why place it right by the entrance to the

The app — well, it’s just frustrating. I tried testing it with both my partner & my best friend. My friend couldn’t even get the invite link to work on her phone. Fail. My partner managed to successfully connect as my “lover” and even do a video call with me… but the custom vibration modes never would work for either of us. Long-distance, wirelessly controlled sex toys are an awesome idea, but this one simply was not user-friendly or sexy — unless you get turned on by being horribly frustrated with technology. The only thing I enjoyed about the app was that it displays a percentage for how much charge my Rave has left.

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Even with the torture-chamber edges that totally scare my vagina and one of the most poorly designed charging ports in sex toy history, the Rave is still one of the best vibrators I have ever used. (Especially once I deleted the mobile app.)

The G-sport curve is spot on for my body & the toy is firm enough to apply loads of intense, unrelenting pressure. Add on some of the most rumbly, powerful vibrations that I have ever felt in an insertable vibrator and I am basically transported to my own personal Shangri-La.

Once again, We-Vibe proves that they know how to please the power queens of the world. And I am completely smitten.


Pros: incredibly strong & rumbly vibrations, curved for G-spot stimulation, firm enough to apply lots of pressure, asymmetry offers multiple options for clitoral stimulation, body-safe & nonporous silicone, easy controls, 10 vibration patterns, relatively quiet, rechargeable

Cons: not waterproof, charging port easily collects lube & bodily fluids, mobile/long-distance app is not user friendly, edges might feel uncomfortably sharp during internal use


Huge thanks to my wonderful affiliate, Good Vibrations, for sending me this product in exchange for an honest & unbiased review. 

If you would like to purchase the We-Vibe Rave, please consider supporting my blog by doing so here.

  1. One sex toy origin story (which is almost certainly a myth) states that the first-ever vibrator was created when Cleopatra filled a gourd with live bees. As you can imagine, this would require a whole hell of a lot of bees — and plenty of prayers that the gourd would not break.

Tantus Duchess Review

One thing that I love about Tantus (and there are several) is that they are continuously working on improving their line of quality silicone toys & making them more accessible to customers. Love their designs, but low on cash? They decided to use up spare silicone to create super-cheap grab bags. Need just a bit more reach during masturbation? They developed dildos with handles. Love girthy toys, but struggle a bit with comfortable insertion? Just another wonderful use for their O2 dual density silicone.description text

Tantus DuchessMeet the Tantus Duchess: the exact same design as their older Duke dildo — but squishier! Tantus’ O2 line of dual density silicone toys are made from two layers of silicone. First, there is the firm inner core which gives the toy stability and prevents it from drooping or folding over on itself when bent. Then, there is the softer outer layer which provides a much more comfortable, forgiving surface. I’m a big fan of dual density silicone in general; I simply love the way it feels. But when a toy is pushing my limits in girth, that extra squish can make all the difference.

The Duchess is available in 2 colors: ice (blue) & candy (pink). It has a super straight shaft that measures a fairly average 1.5″ in diameter. However, at the end of that shaft is a thick, 1.8″ bulbous head that definitely enters into more girthy territory. Although the entire design is more simplified than realistic, it does include the semblance of a frenulum and a very pronounced coronal ridge. Its insertable length measures 6.5″.

Tantus DuchessThe Duchess is one of Tantus’ “vibrators,” but it’s really more of a “vibrating dildo” — a silicone cock with a hole in the base for the addition of a vibrating bullet. (Tantus will include one of their own bullet vibes, but it works well with my beloved We-Vibe Tango too.) This hole also accommodates Tantus’ suction cups, and the base (measuring approximately 2.75″ across) makes this toy both harness compatible and anal safe.

Made from 100% silicone, the Duchess is both body-safe & nonporous. It also has a unique combination of different silicone finishes. While most of the toy is matte, the head is ever-so-subtly shiny. And although both of these textures create a lot of drag when not lubricated properly, the glossiness of the head seems to lubricate easier and assist with insertion. (Unfortunately, this gloss finish also attracts loads of dust, hair, & lint — so keep that toy cleaner handy!)

I received my Duchess as a bulk review item from SheVibe, so it did not come with any packaging. However, I can say from experience that Tantus’ packaging is always super tasteful and gender-neutral.

Tantus Duchess

As you may be able to notice, the color (and therefore, the consistency) of my Duchess is slightly uneven. The inner core was not entirely centered during the molding process, leaving one side squishy & white and allowing much more of the firm, blue silicone to show through on the other. I’m happy to say that although it doesn’t look like the stock photos, this has not affected my experience with the toy in use. 

experience textTantus DuchessIn the past, I have gravitated towards insertable toys with a girth of about 1.5″ — branching out to 1.75″ only when my vagina was feeling particularly mighty. But ever since Woodhull (when I was suddenly & irrevocably inspired by Lunabelle‘s beautiful collection), I’ve decided to up the ante.

My first attempt at something a little bit larger was the Blush Novelties Luxe Mio. I liked it a lot, but it didn’t really mesh with my masturbation habits. I had to slowly work up to it with other toys, carefully choose my lubricants, and still be prepared for the inevitable hint of pain. For someone who usually likes to knock out a few orgasms and then return to her latest Netflix obsession … it was all a bit too time-consuming. A real “special occasion” dildo.

Even with the same diameter, the Tantus Duchess is wildly different. All of its challenge lies in the head; a head that, while certainly bulbous, is made entirely from squishy & glossy silicone. It lubricates easily and offers up a friendly, give & take relationship with my vagina. (I don’t even have to focus on using my most cushiony lubricant or choosing my next largest dildo as a warm-up toy!) On the rare occasion when I have felt discomfort with the Duchess, it’s completely limited to my vaginal opening and it’s over before I know it. Since the size immediately drops at the shaft, there’s no lingering ache while I anxiously wait for my vagina to adjust to the size. (Seriously NOT my idea of pleasurable pain.)

Tantus Duchess - Bullet VibeThe completely straight shaft also allows me to use the Duchess as a thrusting dildo. It doesn’t hook behind my pubic bone. And despite its size, it doesn’t get stuck in place by my clenching muscles like the Luxe Mio does. (Just remember to reapply lube, because the matte silicone can — and probably will — dry out.) The large coronal ridge feels wonderful when it grazes against the front wall of my vagina and the bulbous head provides great pressure. The Duchess is actually one of the few dildos I own that I love to use for both active thrusting & stationary pressure/clenching.

As for the addition of a vibrating bullet? Meh. As with most Tantus products, I feel that the design is fantastic on its own; I actually find vibrations to be a little distracting. However, I am happy to say that despite the thick silicone, vibrations do travel down through the tip of the toy. (They are pretty muffled though, so this is yet another time when I would suggest a really powerful bullet vibe like the We-Vibe Tango.)

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I’m surprised by how much I love the Tantus Duchess. Sure, if I’m looking for intense & direct G-spot action (which I usually am), I’ll reach for another toy. But for those times when I want to challenge myself just a little; when I want to be able to thrust with wild abandon & still get some stimulation & pressure on the front wall of my vagina; when I want to clench my muscles around a nice, thick chunk of soft silicone…the Duchess is perfect. Huge plus that I don’t have spend all night working up to it, too.

Although it is a little bit pricey ($89.99 at SheVibe), I can assure you that this is one very high quality dual-density sex toy — and one of my personal favorites for experimenting with larger sizes. You really don’t get better than Tantus.


Pros: bulbous & larger-than-average head, pronounced coronal ridge, softer dual-density silicone (with firm core) makes size more comfortable, straight shaft makes thrusting easy, body-safe/nonporous, has space for vibrating bullet or suction cup, harness compatible & anal safe

Cons: potentially uncomfortable insertion for those who are used to smaller toys

Huge thanks to my affiliate, SheVibe, for sending me this toy in exchange for an honest, unbiased review! 


If you’d like to purchase the Tantus Duchess, please consider doing so here. (And if you like the shape of the Duchess, but the dual-density isn’t important to you & you’d like to save some money, the Duke is only $64.99.)   

Perfect Plug & Perfect Plug Plus

Tantus Perfect Plug Kit Review

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The Perfect Plug Kit by Tantus is packaged within a clear plastic clamshell case with a single sheet of basic information and contains 2 different anal toys: the smaller, original Perfect Plug and the larger, vibrating Perfect Plug Plus (3-speed waterproof bullet vibrator included). Although they vary in size, each plug features the same basic design: a tapered end followed by a rounded bulge, a straight shaft, and a long skinny base that is made to fit comfortably between one’s asscheeks. Both plugs are made from 100% high quality, body-safe silicone which the packaging aptly describes as “plush” and “velvety.” (It actually reminds me a lot of Lelo’s famous silicone, reducing drag and fending off large amounts of dust, lint, & hair.) The silicone is firm to the touch, but the toys themselves are thin enough to bend & flex with your body. Each plug — or plug set — is available in two colors: black & purple.

Perfect Plug

With its incredibly small size and gently tapered point, the Perfect Plug was created with the first-time anal player in mind.  It has a total length of 3.5″ and a diameter of just 0.75″ at its widest insertable point. At almost the exact same size as a single finger, it’s definitely one of the most unassuming anal toys that I’ve ever seen. Plus, the thin diamond-shaped base offers a sturdy 2.5″ in length; you won’t have to worry about these butt plugs escaping into your colon and sending you to the ER.

Perfect Plug & Perfect Plug Plus

 Perfect Plug Plus

The Perfect Plug Plus, although slightly larger than the original, is still relatively small and beginner-friendly when compared to the overall anal plug market. The Plus has a total length of 4″ and a diameter of 1.2″ at it’s widest insertable point. The base measures in at approximately 2.75″ long. Instead of being solid silicone, the bottom half of the Plus is hollowed out to accommodate a vibrating bullet. It snuggly holds the included Tantus bullet as well as my beloved We-Vibe Tango. (Although the Tango is a slightly tighter fit with a bit of extra length poking out.) Both are still easy to remove with or without lubricant, which seems to be incredibly rare for bullet-compatible toys.

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Like I mentioned in my review for the Fun Factory Bootie, anal play isn’t an activity that I often engage in anymore. At the ripe old age of about 25, my body decided to develop minor internal hemorrhoids that — even if they’re not currently acting up — have put the fear of god in me. (Or at least the fear of a painfully itchy booty.) My ass has gradually gone from a source of taboo pleasure to a desexualized, off-limits area. I have to be extremely aware of the diameter of toys I want to try. I have to constantly remind myself to slow down and take deep breaths. I basically have to start from square one.

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Perfect Plug BaseAs a butt-shy, second-time-around anal beginner, the Perfect Plug was exactly that: perfect. The tip is so small and the taper is so gradual that with the help of a little lubricant, the plug just slips right in there without a problem. No pain, no discomfort; it doesn’t challenge my body at all — which I consider to be a very good thing right now.

Once inserted, the Perfect Plug rests comfortably inside of me, quietly asserting its presence without screaming for attention. I can walk or sit down and it doesn’t interfere at all. It even remains unobtrusive during PIV intercourse; I never did feel like it was going to pop out simply because my partner’s thrusts were nudging the base. Overall, it’s almost like this plug is invisible. While my partner really enjoyed the experience of wearing it while walking up & down stairs, I failed to find it “pleasurable” in any context — but that’s the case with all anal toys right now. For me, it is a simple & very comfortable stepping stone for taking my ass back. That’s all I’m asking for right now.

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The Perfect Plug Plus, on the other hand, was a bit of a challenge. The increase in size is less gradual with this plug, and that caused my partner to write it off after a couple of unsuccessful attempts at insertion. I was suddenly afraid. Although shape is often more of a determining factor for him than size, he has in general been much more successful with anal play than I have been lately. If it wasn’t working for him…how in the world would it work for me?!

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I’m happy to say that forging ahead with the Perfect Plug Plus was not nearly as scary as I had imagined. At the same time, I must admit that I probably won’t be using it again any time soon. Inserting the Plus is not easy for me. I experience a fair amount of resistance as well as the occasional brief moment of discomfort. Once the plug is finally in place, it takes me a long time to get used to the size — if I ever do. Walking & sitting doesn’t feel natural anymore. It’s distracting and just a bit too much for my body overall.

As expected, the Plus is slightly less inconspicuous during PIV intercourse or vaginal masturbation, but it never made either activity uncomfortable; it simply felt like my partner might dislodge the plug when thrusting. By far, my favorite part about the Perfect Plug Plus was the vibrations and their effect on my partner. The 3-speed Tantus bullet was enough to take some time off of his endurance — but he was truly a lost cause with the addition of the We-Vibe Tango! (I’m not a huge fan of anal vibrations, but I also enjoyed the Tango somewhat more. It was powerful enough for the vibrations to travel to my vagina — and it was much less buzzy/itchy.)

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Perfect Plug Plus & Bullet

The Perfect Plug Kit by Tantus is a fantastic choice for anal beginners or those individuals who simply prefer smaller butt toys. Both plugs sport a very sleek, body-conforming shape that helps with easy insertion as well as comfortable extended wear. The Perfect Plug Plus even allows for experimentation with vibrations, which is not as easy to find in small anal toys! Best of all, you get TWO body-safe & nonporous butt plugs for one affordable price ($68 through the Tantus website).

Although the Plus isn’t extremely comfortable for my body at this time, this will certainly not be the case for everyone — not even for all anal beginners. If, however, you are extremely concerned about size (or already know that you cannot handle more than a finger and don’t care to try), I still highly recommend the Perfect Plug on its own ($33.60). On the other hand, if there’s any chance that you’d like to work up to something larger over time, my advice is to go ahead and get the Kit. It’ll save you some money in the long run!


Pros: small with beginner-friendly shapes, two sizes allow for anal experimentation & advancement, larger plug is bullet compatible (vibrations!), body-safe & nonporous silicone, long/thin base for safe & comfortable wear, affordable price, can buy plugs separately if you know that one size just isn’t for you

Cons: larger plug can still be too large/not tapered enough for absolute anal beginners

Special thanks to Tantus for sending me this product in exchange for my honest, unbiased review! 


If you would like to purchase the Perfect Plug Kit, please consider doing so through one of my affiliates: Tantus or SheVibe.

Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant Review

Before I got my hands on Coconu, I avoided oil-based lubricants like that long-ago mistake of a boyfriend who texts you in the middle of the night, wanting to “Netflix and chill.”

Oil-based lubricants have some major downsides, making them incompatible with certain sexual activities & undesirable for many individuals. First of all, any product that is oil-based is not latex-safe. (The oil will damage/weaken latex & polyisoprene condoms. Nitrile or polyurethane barriers must be used instead.) Secondly, most oil-based lubricants that are currently on the market are also “synthetic” or petroleum-based and not vagina-safe. (Because they do not easily wash away or get absorbed by our cells, they tend to remain inside the body for longer periods of time, providing a lovely little habitat for bacteria).

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Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant tubeCoconu offers one of the few available plant-based oil lubricants, and the only lubricant to be USDA-certified organic. Plant-based lubricants are special; unlike their synthetic counterparts, they actually are considered safe for vaginal penetration.* Coconu’s ingredients include: sunflower seed oil, coconut oil, beeswax, shea butter, cocoa seed butter, sweet almond oil, canola oil, kukui seed oil, sea buckthorn oil, and Tocopherol (Non-GMO). There is no alcohol, petroleum, gluten, fragrance, or dye. Coconu’s formula is also paraben & phthlate free.

Coconu’s packaging is very simple & tastefully designed. The oil-based lubricant comes in a copper-colored plastic tube with a flip-top and is packaged within a sky-blue cardboard box. At $22 for only 3 oz, it is on the pricey side — even for high-quality lubricants. (Coconu also makes a water-based version, but the price is exactly the same.)

*With so many natural ingredients, Coconu prides themselves on being hypoallergenic & body-safe. However, as with all lubricants, please discontinue use if you experience any irritation or negative side effects. To my knowledge, there is little or no actual research on using coconut or other plant oils as personal lubricants. Some individuals still argue that it can clog pores and/or disrupt the natural environment of the vagina. As with any other controversial topic, my advice is to educate yourself so that you can make an informed decision. Remember: all of our bodies are unique, and it is rare that any single lubricant would be perfect for every individual.

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Having never used an oil-based lubricant before, I didn’t quite know what to expect. For some reason, I had imagined a slick & runny consistency similar to cooking oil. However, Coconu looks & feels more similar to a tube of Vaseline: an almost gel-like substance that is very thick and gooey. As the lube spreads out & warms up with skin-on-skin contact, it becomes a thin & slippery oil sheen… but it never makes my skin feel sticky. Instead, I actually feel softer & more moisturized after using it.

Coconu has a very gentle, natural smell that does remind me of cooking oils, but which I personally do not find very sexy. It also tastes horrible — or rather, it doesn’t taste much at all, but the consistency is such that I want to gag. Being an oil-based lubricant, it takes a little more effort to completely wash away. (Water obviously doesn’t cut it. It helps to physically wipe off any remaining lubricant and then wash with soap afterwards.) It also has the potential to stain fabric, so be aware of that possibility when you’re breaking in a new set of sheets.

Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant

I tried using Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant in many different situations and (not surprisingly) I found it better suited for some sexual activities than others.

PIV Intercourse

This lube really impressed my partner & me. Even though it’s thick and somewhat awkward going on, it feels very thin and natural once the action starts. It allows for easy insertion & comfortable thrusting, but without feeling overly wet or squishy. (In this way, it was very similar to our experience with Pink Silicone Lubricant.) It lasted longer than we did, so we never had to reapply. And surprisingly enough, it seemed to make clean-up easier too. My partner and I are fluid-bonded, so we don’t often use condoms during PIV intercourse. Coconu seemed to allow his cum to slide out of me all at once instead of slowly dripping down my legs as I scamper awkwardly to the bathroom.

Anal Play

Anal play isn’t something that I do much anymore, so my experience here was limited to the very small Perfect Plug from Tantus. With just a thin coating of Coconu, the plug slid in effortlessly. (Always a good sign.) But what really surprised me was that it stayed lubricated! One of the reasons I hate wearing butt plugs for an extended period is that taking them out can sometimes feel uncomfortable if the lube has had a chance to dry. Although I certainly didn’t push for any world records (probably only wore it for 30 minutes or so), the plug was just as perfectly lubricated coming out as it was going in. The fact that oil-based lubricants are long-lasting is a huge perk for anal play.

Penile Masturbation

I’m rarely satisfied with lubricant options for hand jobs. Many lubes get tacky so quickly; I end up using a lot and yet still rushing through my partner’s pleasure. Coconu was perfect. It was warm & velvety soft, slippery without being messy. It allowed me to slow down and give my partner a long, teasing play session without ever needing to add more lubricant. Honestly, I think that this will be the primary way that our tube gets emptied.

Vaginal Masturbation

Although I loved using Coconu vaginally with my partner, I really did not enjoy using it with sex toys. I felt like it took a very large amount to coat my silicone dildo — and thrusting still wasn’t as comfortable as it should have been. I even purposefully chose a medium-sized, smoothly finished toy (the Vamp Lola), so that it would become super slippery. No dice. This lube just doesn’t seem to cut down on drag very much at all.

It’s important to note that oil-based lubricants should not be used with porous sex toys. (And I highly suggest that you shouldn’t be reintroducing them to your body either.) For more information on sex toy safety, click here


Coconu states on their website that the oil-based lubricant can also be used as a massage oil, but I was skeptical. I mean…it’s lube. Not exactly the most appealing consistency for a long, relaxing massage.

Reluctantly, I asked my partner to try it anyway — and I was incredibly surprised. It actually feels very nice on the skin. The oil allowed my partner’s hands to glide smoothly over my back without drying out, and it didn’t make either of us feel sticky. In fact, after gently wiping away the oil residue, neither of us felt the need to jump into the shower to wash it off. Although I don’t enjoy it as much as my favorite massage candles, it would do perfectly well in a pinch. (And it’s very convenient if you want to jump right into other sexual activities.)

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Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant boxCoconu Oil-Based Lubricant certainly isn’t an “across the board” lube for me, but it has still proven to be a pleasurable addition to my toy box. It’s a good silicone substitution for my fluid-bonded partner & I when we’re looking for that au naturale feeling during PIV intercourse. It has not caused any negative reactions within my body. And its strengths really shine during penile masturbation & anal play; the staying power is amazing!

There are a lot of considerations when deciding whether or not to use an oil-based lubricant. Consider what type of safer sex barriers you intend to use, what toys might come into play, how upset you’ll be if your sheets/clothes accidentally get stained, and where you stand in the “safety of plant-based oils” debate. But if you’ve decided that oil-based lubricants will fit nicely within your sex life (and you can afford the price point), I highly recommend Coconu’s organic oil-based lubricant.


Pros: feels natural, long-lasting (especially good for anal play & hand jobs), provides a long-lasting silicone lube alternative for use with silicone sex toys, doubles as a massage oil, USDA-certified organic, hypoallergenic, one of few plant-based oil lubricants on the market (vagina-safe)

Cons: not latex safe, may stain fabric, should not be used with porous sex toys, more difficult to remove from skin than water-based lubricant, bad taste, quite expensive (especially for how much I seem to use)


Special thanks to my lovely affiliate, Peepshow Toys, for sending me this item in exchange for an honest,  unbiased review! If you would like to purchase Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant, please consider doing so here. And don’t forget to use discount code “Mandi” at checkout to save 10%!

Main Squeeze Heavy Double

Lovehoney Main Squeeze: Heavy Double Kegel Balls Review

Those closest to me like to joke that whenever I decide to try something new, I go “balls to the wall.” In this instance, I can’t think of a more fitting phrase — or one that would amuse me nearly as much.

On somewhat of a whim, I decided to request one of the heaviest kegel exercisers that Lovehoney has to offer: the Main Squeeze Heavy Double Kegel Balls. Although kegel exercises aren’t exactly new for me, my experience is still somewhat limited. I have a wonderfully adorable app called Kegel Kat (which I hardly ever remember to use) and I own the Lelo Luna Beads (which have only ever tried to escape from my vagina once). Despite that one very awkward closed-leg walk across the gym, I still consider my pelvic floor to be pretty strong. And hey… Your vagina only lives once, right? Why not challenge it?

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For anyone who is unfamiliar with Kegel balls, their intended purpose is to be placed and held within the vagina in order to exercise the muscles of the pelvic floor (those that support the bladder & uterus). Exercising these muscles can have certain health benefits, such as treating or preventing urinary incontinence & pelvic prolapse — as well as potentially creating stronger orgasms. Kegel balls are great because they allow your body to passively engage in Kegel exercises while also providing additional weight.

Lovehoney Main Squeeze

The Heavy Double Kegel Balls by Lovehoney weigh in at 90g and measure approximately 5.5″ long (3″ of balls/2.5″ of retrieval string) with a diameter of 1.25″ on each ball and 0.5″ in the middle. (For comparison, even the heaviest combination of Lelo Luna Beads max out at 74g!) But don’t worry. If you’d like to start with a lighter size, Lovehoney still has you covered. Main Squeeze Kegel Balls also come in 2 other weighted varieties: a single 30g ball & a 60g double-ball.

All of the Main Squeeze Kegel Balls are made with a nonporous & body-safe silicone coating (complete with a silicone retrieval loop at the end) and contain free-roaming weights inside. The structure is very firm, with no flex or bend between the balls. The purple silicone has a velvety matte finish that doesn’t attract loads of dust, lint, or hair — or create much drag. However, because of the solid, bulbous form and the fact that most individuals use Kegel balls when they are not aroused, a good water-based lubricant can be extremely helpful for easy, comfortable insertion.

Lovehoney Main Squeeze pkgThe product packaging is plain & simple: just a small cardboard box with pictures of the toy and information about its purpose. Inside, the Kegel balls themselves are sealed within a clear plastic bag. Also included is a small sheet of instructions [viewable here], perfect for those who have never used Kegel exercisers before. (As Peep pointed out in her wonderful review of the 60g version, the packaging & instructions are impressively gender neutral and sex positive. No vagina shaming here!) Of course, Lovehoney values customer privacy and all of this was placed within a plain brown cardboard box to be discreetly delivered to my doorstep.

It’s important to note that because these toys have no flared base, they are absolutely NOT anal safe. If you want jiggle balls for your bum, please take a look at Fun Factory’s B Balls instead. 

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I’ll admit; I find it nearly impossible to tell if Kegel exercises are “working.” Because I haven’t had much trouble keeping other Kegel balls inside of my body, I’ve been somewhat bored and confused by using them. It’s a continuous guessing game, trying to gauge the strength of my own vagina. Should I try something smaller? Heavier? Should I do jumping jacks? Am I even doing this right at all?! 

Lovehoney Main Squeeze Retrieval LoopAt first, Lovehoney’s Main Squeeze Heavy Double Kegel Balls were the same way. I applied a bit of lube (but not so much that it would cause them to slip out prematurely), slowly pushed them inside of my vagina, and went about my normal day-to-day activities. I felt the constant pressure of having something solid & unyielding inside of my body, but that was all. I couldn’t feel the weights rolling around inside of the casing. I didn’t feel my body actively working to keep the balls in place. And my muscles never did feel “tired” — even after wearing them for nearly 4 hours.

So, I turned it up a notch: I tried dancing. Finally, I found a way to challenge my body. My poor vagina was suddenly having one hell of a time keeping these 90g weights in place. The bottom ball would constantly work its way down, resting at my vaginal opening, playing an annoyingly awkward game of peekaboo until I would reach down and gently push them back up into a more secure position. (Thank goodness I decided to try this in the privacy of my own home.)

Lovehoney Main Squeeze vs Lelo LunaMy only complaint is that I never do feel the weights rolling around, no matter how much I move. As someone who finds the very noticeable “thwacking” sensation of the Lelo Luna Beads to be somewhat pleasurable, I do miss it. But if that extra sensation is annoying or too intense for you, then you’ll be happy to know that the Lovehoney Main Squeeze Kegel Balls are much, much more subtle.

“What about the results,” you ask? Well to be honest, I haven’t noticed any — at least not verifiably. I’m already in pretty good pelvic health. And although I sometimes feel like I can squeeze my partner’s penis even harder during PIV intercourse, I’m also well aware that this could simply be a placebo effect. The only real, noticeable change is that I tend to produce more natural lubrication when wearing Kegel balls of any sort.

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If you’re looking for an easy & effective way to do Kegel exercises, the Lovehoney Main Squeeze line is a great choice. They’re body-safe, very affordable (30g – $19.99 | 60g – $22.99 | 90g – $24.99), and offer a variety of options — for beginners and experts alike. The 90g Heavy Double Kegel Balls are the only exercisers that have managed to challenge my vagina, actually providing me with a goal that I can work towards. And although I don’t receive any pleasure out of the rolling weights (like I do with the Lelo Luna Beads), I also recognize that “pleasure” is not what these items are intended for. They do precisely what they are meant to do: exercise the pelvic floor muscles.

I will say, however, that even though 3″ doesn’t sound like a lot…it is approximately the average size of an unaroused (and thus untented) vagina. For some, this could mean that these Kegel balls are too long to fit comfortably inside of the body. (Personally, they seem close to the upper limit for me, but are still wearable. I simply have to remain careful about pushing them in too far, so as to avoid any brief & mild pain.)

If you’re concerned about the length — or about choosing the right weight — Lovehoney does offer free 365-day returns. This way, if the Main Squeeze Kegel Balls don’t work for you, you can either get your money back or try a different size and it’s no big deal.


Pros: nonporous & body-safe silicone, very affordable, variety of weights to choose from (90g was actually challenging for me!), shame-free packaging, 365-day return policy

Cons: couldn’t feel free-roaming weights moving around (could be a pro for some), stiffness & length could be an issue for some body types

I’d like to thank my affiliate, Lovehoney, for providing me with this item in exchange for my honest, unbiased review.

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If you’d like to purchase the Lovehoney Main Squeeze Kegel Balls, you can do so here: 30g, 60g, and 90g