The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation Review

Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms

Discovering my G-spot is proving to be a long and difficult journey. My current partner is its Christopher Columbus — finding it before I did, even though it was there all along. I’ll never forget that moment: my eyes opened wide, my mouth making the perfect O of surprised pleasure and awe. Over the last few years, I’ve discovered the joys of blended orgasms (those arrived at from both clitoral and G-spot stimulation). Sex toys have taught me a lot about my body. The Tantus G-spot Vibrator, Lelo Mona 2, and Jopen Key Comet 2 have all allowed me to take control of a pleasure center whose very existence I once doubted. Still, a purely G-spot orgasm has eluded me — and my experience with squirting is limited to a single trickling instance of maybe sorta.

Being the sex nerd that I am, this is the point where I start reading everything I can on the subject. And the first book I got my hands on was The Secrets of G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation by Tristan Taormino.

Taormino does a wonderful job of presenting information in an educational but totally relatable way, with bits of erotic fiction, high-quality softcore photographs, and fabulous quotes interspersed throughout. She starts with a short overview of G-spot science & depictions of internal genital anatomy that are perfect for G-spot beginners. But what I really enjoyed were all the practical suggestions: toys, positions, even step-by-step advice for myself AND my partner.

In fact, she makes squirting seem so easy that I finished the book with complete certainty that the next time would be THE time. It wasn’t, of course. Learning how to master one’s G-spot can take a lot of time & effort — and still there are no guarantees. But this book has helped me to make huge strides in letting go of the fear and stress that I experience from that familiar “Do I have to pee?” feeling. It’s helped me to push past the overwhelming sensations to arrive at the most pleasurable & exhausting blended orgasms that I have ever experienced.

As always, it’s important to remember that a person’s sexual experiences are unique. Not every individual will find G-spot stimulation enjoyable, and not everyone will be able to experience a G-spot orgasm or female ejaculation. But if you’re curious about exploring this area of your body, Tristan Taormino has created a truly fantastic resource!

If you’re interested in adding The Secrets of G-Spot Orgasms to your sexual library, please consider purchasing from my affiliate, Good Vibrations.

Lelo Ella [review]

First Impressions 

The Lelo Ella seems to be a classic beginner’s favorite among the sex blogging world, as far as G-spot toys go. It’s created by a reputable manufacturer of non-porous & body-safe sex toys. It’s relatively inexpensive, despite the fact that Lelo is considered a “luxury” brand. It’s not as intimidating as the rigid steel of the njoy Pure Wand. And the curve is very pronounced, made to effortlessly provide direct G-spot stimulation — without vibration. With everyone gushing (both literally & figuratively) over the Lelo Ella, I simply couldn’t resist trying it out for myself.

DSC03205Description

Like all Lelo products, the Ella comes packaged in multiple layers. On the outside is a thin cardboard box, featuring an elegant photo of the “pleasure object” and some basic product descriptions. Inside is another, much sturdier (and plain) cardboard box that is perfect for long-term storage. Also included is a storage/travel pouch, a user manual, and an authenticity card for warranty purposes.

The first thing I noticed about the Lelo Ella was just how small it is. At only 7″ long and under an inch & a half at its widest point, it is certainly a petite piece of sexual equipment. However, one of the most appealing things about this toy is that it’s double-sided. One end is slim and tapered for easy insertion and warm-up. The other end features the beloved curve and flattened tip for focused G-spot stimulation.

As per usual, the Ella is made from Lelo’s fabulous velvety silicone. Although Lelo products are hit-or-miss with me, this is the one facet about them that I am never disappointed with. It’s matte, provides little-to-no drag during use, and magically doesn’t attract dust, lint, or hair. (Honestly, I sometimes just like touching it or rubbing it over my body; it’s that awesome.)

Because it’s made from silicone, the Lelo Ella is considered a soft toy. However, when compared with other silicone toys, it’s very firm. There is no squish to the Ella and only a slight amount of flexibility along its “neck.” For many people, this is very important in G-spot toys because it provides stronger pressure.

It’s also important to note that while the Ella is seamless, there is a small ‘LELO’ imprint on each side. Although this isn’t noticeable during use, it does like to collect a lot of lubricant and bodily fluids, requiring more focused cleaning.

ExperienceLelo Ella + pouch

Unfortunately, my experience with the Ella did not live up to the hype. I did not have a sudden G-spot epiphany, mastering this controversial spot and swearing by its magical powers. I certainly did not experience a G-spot orgasm. No, to put it simply: the Lelo Ella did not ‘wow’ me.

The Tapered Side: I will admit that the small and sleek tapered end does offer a nice warm-up before the more awkward-to-insert G-spot end or other, larger toys. It also appears to fit my vaginal anatomy quite nicely, making it feel very comfortable and natural to insert. Unfortunately, the fact remains that it is small, straight, and boring. Even the beautiful & gentle swell near the middle doesn’t provide much pleasure for me (compared with other toys). The absolute worst part, however, is that I actually have to be cautious when using this end. It’s just pointy enough to be painful if I get too enthusiastic with my thrusts.

The G-spot SideI wish I could say that using the G-spot end is less of a lackluster (and potentially painful) experience for me…but unfortunately, that would be a lie. Sure, it does find the right spot — and sometimes even produces pleasurable sensations that help lead to orgasm. But my first time using the Lelo Ella was so horrible that my vagina just can’t trust it. It’s the only time a sex toy has almost sent me into a panic, because it was causing me pain and I couldn’t seem to remove it without that pain getting worse.

For me, the problem appears to be in the curve. It’s simply too drastic and “hook-like” for my anatomy. Insertion is often uncomfortable, motion is highly restricted or else it gets hooked behind my pubic bone, and removal is almost always a difficult and/or painful experience. (Although I have discovered that turning it so that the hook faces one of my legs makes this a little easier.)  

The Bottom Line: If I want G-spot stimulation, I reach for a different toy. The bulbous head of the Tantus G-spot is able to provide the right amount of stimulation, without getting hooked behind my pubic bone. It allows me to thrust as much and as quickly as I want, which is how I experience the most pleasure. I also just recently purchased the Jopen Key Comet II. Its gentle & swooping curve instantly finds my G-spot and the vibrations counteract my inability to thrust with it. The Lelo Ella forces me to change the way that I masturbate, and it’s not remarkable enough to make up for it.

Lelo Ella

Suggestion

A lot of people really love the Lelo Ella. If you know that your anatomy allows for drastic curves without getting uncomfortably hooked behind your pubic bone, or it you don’t require thrusting or vibration for pleasurable G-spot stimulation, this toy could be a good purchase for you. At the very least, it is a quality product that is both body-safe and affordable. However, if you’re like me, I suggest saving your money for a toy that will better match your anatomy and/or masturbation style.

2star

Pros: made from Lelo’s fabulous silicone (non-porous & body safe), affordable & high quality, curved design & flattened tip reach the G-spot without much effort

Cons: “hook-like” curve can catch behind one’s pubic bone and/or make insertion & removal uncomfortable or even painful, tapered end can feel too pointy, both of these issues can prevent thrusting or large movements

If you would like to purchase the Lelo Ella, you can do so through my affiliates, Shevibe or Peepshow Toys. In addition to black, the Ella also comes in white & rose. 

Tantus G-Spot Vibrator

Tantus G-Spot Vibrator [review]

Description

Tantus G-Spot VibratorThe shape is what intrigued me most about the Tantus G-Spot Vibrator. Made specifically for G-spot stimulation, the toy features a prominent bulbous head with a rather gentle curve. For additional stimulation to the vaginal entrance, there is also a slight dip located a little lower than halfway down the shaft. (For someone with a shallow G-spot, this feature may go unexplored.) Although not huge by any means, the toy is on the larger end of average. It has a near-constant diameter of 1.5″ and an insertable length of 7″.

Anyone who is familiar with Tantus products will know that although this toy is labeled as a “vibrator,” it’s really just a vibrating dildo. That is, it has a hole in the base that will accommodate a vibrating bullet. Tantus provides a basic silver bullet that can be used with any of their “vibrators.” However, it is a pretty standard size and can easily be swapped with many other vibrating bullets.

The G-spot Vibrator was one of my first Tantus products, and the very first thing that I noticed is just how hefty it is! It’s 100% high-quality silicone — and it is thick, firm, and heavy. Attempting to “squish” the silicone anywhere other than the hollow base is practically impossible. And although the toy definitely flexes, touching one end to the other is out of the question. The silicone itself is shimmery, but has a matte finish that creates a lot of drag if not sufficiently lubricated. The good news is that it attracts a very small amount of dust, lint, and hair.

Tantus G-Spot VibratorI ordered my G-Spot Vibrator some time ago, when the pink color option was still available as a Closeout item. (It appears that it’s now only being produced in purple.) Therefore, I believe that I got what is now considered the “old style” Tantus packaging. Despite some design differences, both packaging styles have a lot of similarities. Tantus is very good at keeping their packaging gender-neutral & surprisingly nonsexual. It’s a simple plastic clamshell design— focused on basic transportation, not long-term storage. With partial transparency, it is not ideal for those worried about discretion, but it does provide a nice glimpse of the toy before opening.

Experience

Tantus G-Spot VibratorThe shape of the Tantus G-Spot Vibrator is just as awesome as I had hoped it would be. The rounded head effortlessly locates my G-spot, and the curve is not so intense that it “catches” on my pubic bone when thrusting. If you prefer idle pressure for G-Spot stimulation, the silicone is firm enough to apply adequate amounts — but obviously not as unforgiving as materials like metal or glass. For this reason, it could be a good alternative for individuals who want to experience G-spot pressure, but who typically enjoy soft sex toys.

I do suggest that you have a bottle of long-lasting lubricant nearby, as this particular silicone blend creates a lot of drag and can feel rather dry. Also, because of its size and shape (namely the bulbous head), insertion can be a little difficult if you are accustomed to smaller sex toys. Warming up with other, smaller or more tapered toys can help with this. However, I still commonly experience a brief moment of discomfort as the head “pops” past my vaginal opening. This discomfort is very mild, and the pleasurable sensations that I experience once my body adjusts to the toy totally make up for it.

Tantus G-Spot VibratorAs far as vibration intensity goes, the one-speed Tantus bullet is okay — but nothing outstanding. The silicone is very thick and while vibrations can still be felt in the tip, they are definitely muffled. I suggest a super powerful bullet, like the We-Vibe Tango, if vibration is what you’re after. If you’ve never owned a toy with a hole for a vibrating bullet, be aware that insertion is easy…but removal can be a pain. Adding a small amount of lubricant to the hole and/or the bullet can help, but to be honest, I usually just forgo the vibration capability altogether. It is an awesome toy — even as a simple dildo, and I usually don’t consider added vibrations to be worth the hassle.

Would I suggest the Tantus G-Spot Vibrator?

Definitely! While I have yet to experience female ejaculation, or an orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone, the Tantus G-Spot Vibrator was my first toy that made it seem like a real possibility. It may not be one of Tantus’s most talked about products, but it is one of my personal favorites.

Unfortunately, the G-Spot Vibrator is no longer available at a Closeout price through Tantus‘s website. And I will admit that at $85.96, it is a little steep for someone on a budget. However, there are cheaper options: Shevibe offers this toy for only $72.99, and Pink Cherry currently has it on sale for an extremely reasonable $38!

4stars

Pros: made from Tantus’s premium silicone (non-porous & body safe), bulbous head is perfect for G-spot stimulation, has a hole in the base for the option of adding a vibrating bullet

Cons: silicone creates a lot of drag, may be too soft for someone who enjoys rigid toys for G-spot stimulation, insertion may be uncomfortable for some because of size/shape, price can be steep if not on sale

Pop Top Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter [review]

If you’ve read my review of the Hitachi Original Magic Wand, you already know that I absolutely love it for clitoral stimulation. I love it so much that I’ve made an exception for it: It’s the only porous toy allowed in my bed. What can I say? It makes me orgasm quickly and consistently — and I am forever grateful.

Ever since my first time using the Magic Wand, I’ve wondered how that vibration intensity would feel internally. In fact, I even purchased a cheap PVC G-spot attachment before bloggers like Dangerous Lilly schooled me on material safety. I used it a few times, decided that it felt awkward, and questioned why I kept allowing it to take up space in my drawer.

Still, I couldn’t let go of the idea. I was certain that if it were made from higher quality material and shaped in a slightly different way, an internal attachment might feel really nice. So when Good Vibrations offered to send me the Pop Top Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter, I was overjoyed!

First Impressions & Description

Pop Tops boxPleasure Works’ Pop Top Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter comes in a simple (and gender neutral!) cardboard box. It also comes in two fairly neutral colors: purple and black shimmer. Although my review will focus solely on G-spot stimulation, this toy can also boasts that it can be used to pleasure the prostate.

As the name states, this attachment is made from silicone — meaning that it turns the Original Magic Wand into a non-porous toy! The silicone itself is softer than other silicone toys I own. (For example, it is much squishier and more flexible than the Tantus G-spot vibrating dildo or the Lelo Ella.) This flexibility and stretchiness allows the Pop Top to fit snuggly overtop the head of the Magic Wand, while also being very easy to add & remove. The silicone also has a somewhat matte finish which attracts dust and hair like nobody’s business.

Pop Tops Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter (left) vs. cheap PVC G-spot attachment (right)

Pop Top Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter (left) vs. cheap PVC G-spot attachment (right)

Compared to my old “Gonzo-nose” PVC attachment, the Pop Top G-Spotter looks much more appealing. The attachment itself is larger (5″ of insertable length with a 1 3/8″ diameter), the curve is ever so slightly more pronounced, and the tip is rounded and cushiony so that it gently rubs the G-spot rather than just poking at it. It even has a small nubbin for clitoral stimulation.

Experience

When I first attached the Pop Top Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter to my Original Magic Wand, I immediately noticed two things: (1) It transferred vibrations without a disappointing decrease in intensity, and (2) It somehow made the Magic Wand even louder. (Luckily, the only other inhabitants in my apartment are my partner and 2 cats, none of which bat an eye at vibrator noise — even when it sounds like a lawn mower.)

Because the internal portion of the Pop Top G-Spotter is smooth, flexible, and relatively small, it was both easy and comfortable to insert — even without a warm-up. Always skeptical (but yet excited) about dual stimulation toys, I immediately focused my energy on positioning the wand so that both my G-spot and clitoris were receiving vibration. Unfortunately, I quickly realized that this wasn’t going to work for my anatomy. The space between the clitoral nub and the G-spot arm is less than 1 inch. For me, this means that if I have the internal portion fully inserted, the clitoral portion rests much too low for pleasurable stimulation. However, if your G-spot is more shallow or your clitoris is located closer to your vagina, dual stimulation may work for you.

Hitachi with Pop Top G-SpotterForegoing the idea of clitoral stimulation, I shifted my focus to the G-spot. Everyone knows that the Original Magic Wand is heavy and cumbersome. So if you enjoy thrusting your toys, be prepared for a workout. The constant motion made my arm get tired rather quickly, especially with vibrations traveling up it. (Also, the increased movement makes the neck of my Magic Wand creak rather annoyingly — adding even more noise to the lawn mower vibrations.) If pressure is your pleasure, take a moment to watch my video clip and see how flexible the silicone is. One of my concerns was that the material would give too much… and unfortunately, I was somewhat correct. So far, the only way I’ve discovered to combat the issue is to use my free hand to cup the head of the Magic Wand and press it against my body. Of course, this causes my hand to get the full force of the vibrations.

 

I don’t want it to seem like I don’t enjoy the Pop Top G-Spotter though, because I do. I find all of the annoying little obstacles and problem-solving to be worth it. Because I’ve discovered that if I switch to the high setting, and press the head of the Magic Wand firmly against my vulva, this attachment feels amazing. It has even led me to experience my first orgasms without direct clitoral stimulation — and in typical Original Magic Wand timeliness too! (I’m going to take the “I’ll know it when I feel it” stance on G-spot orgasms and suspect that the vibrations here are so strong they are simply stimulating the clitoris internally.)

Overall, if you enjoy the strong vibrations of the Original Magic Wand, I highly suggest purchasing Pleasure Works’ Pop Top Deluxe Silicone G-Spotter. For only $40, you get a body-safe internal attachment that provides you with more variety for an already awesome toy.

3star

Pros: non-porous & body safe silicone, easy to attach and remove from Original Magic Wand, transmits vibrations very well, comfortable shape for insertion & G-spot stimulation, cheap way to add variety to an old favorite

Cons: makes Original Magic Wand even louder, clitoral nub might not work for everyone’s genital anatomy, size and weight of Magic Wand can make thrusting difficult, silicone may be too flexible to provide desired pressure


A big thanks to Good Vibrations for providing me with this product free of charge in exchange for an honest review!